Drop It Like It's HOT!

It was one of those nights, hanging out with good friends, where the tequila was flowing and the conversation took a turn along the lines of “Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better”. And, as all strongly inebriated adults will tell you, they KNOW how to dance. (Yes, I used the word “adults” because it just seems that all “kids” already KNOW how to dance…)

And thus, it was decided that TONIGHT was going to be an evening of learning how to “Drop It Like It’s HOT!” But, having someone describe it to you just doesn't work for me. Being very visual, I wanted someone to demonstrate it. So, we found this video to watch and learn from:

(Here's the link if the video doesn't show: http://youtu.be/05SR91E0pC4)

Yes, we were rolling on the floor laughing! But then, we got some serious down and dirty action going on... practicing the attitude, moves and ultimately the “Stank Face”. I am sure there are pictures somewhere and a video that I hope never surfaces, so for now, the visual in your mind (thankfully!) is all that you are going to see. It was a comical event that will forever make me laugh and I am aware that that my sweet “Droppin’ It like it’s HOT” dance skills are not any better today than they were before I learned how to do the moves! (This girlfriend may have some sweet moves, but "Droppin' It" ain't one of them!)

Needless to say, I became curious about what it means to "Drop It Like It's Hot". Urban Dictionary defines it as:

“A word originated by Lil' Wayne from the Cash Money Millionaires. He said it first on the song "Back that ass up" with Juvenile. It has 2 meanings to it. The first meaning to it means to get down and dirty on the dance floor, referring to a girl. The other meaning is to rob someone of their belongings.”

"After you back it up don't stop, dr-dr-drop, drop it like its hot" -juvenile ft. Manny Fresh and Lil' Wayne "Back That Ass Up" 

"Nigga this a jackmove foo, drop it like it's hot, gimme all yo fucken money nigga"

The opportunity to make a complete fool of myself – which I enjoyed thoroughly – as I learned how to get "down and dirty on the dance floor" brought a sense of satisfaction. A strange and humorous connection with friends who enjoyed laughing AT me as well as WITH me.

Its always a good night when you can walk away having laughed AT yourself.

The other meaning, “to rob someone of their belongings” would, I guess, refer to the person being robbed “dropping” whatever is being taken as if the item was “hot” and going to “burn” or “hurt” them if they continued to hang onto it. What an interesting choice of words mixed together. I don’t believe these words just apply just to someone taking something physically, but also to someone trying to take something that affects someone mentally, emotionally or spiritually.

My life quote, by Barbara De Angelis, states: 

“Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe.” 

Basically, to me, these words are a reminder and a guide for living a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual healthy and balanced life.

When someone has taken something from me – let’s use “trust” for an example - and I have tried to hang onto that “ broken trust” or “distrust”, I continue to be hurt by the situation I am holding onto. However, learning to “Drop It Like It’s Hot” would be the act of letting go. By letting go of my grip on the situation, I separated myself from it, thus it does not have the power to “burn” me or “hurt” me any longer.

By making this choice, I regain balance and control over myself and the situation.

• I am able to remind myself of what I know I deserve in relationships. (I deserve honest and truthful relationships.)

• What I want and need from others. (I want you to say what you mean and mean what you say.)

• And, speak my truth even if it creates conflict or tension. (I do not agree with the choices you have made and am separating myself from you and the situation.)

• And thus, I am behaving in a way that is in harmony with my personal values. (I choose to live a life of  integrity, speaking truthfully and honestly, helping others and believe in the divine good within every person.)

For me, I would one day like to be the kind of person who lays things down before they would have the opportunity to become “hot” and “burn” my hand, head or heart. The art of laying a lei on the water and watching it float way… letting go. 

Aaaah! The peace that comes with letting go like this!

But the reality is, I’m still nursing some burns on my hands, in my head and across my heart. So until then, I know what the best healing salve is – using the Stank Face, a healthy shot of tequila now and again,  and a good laugh at myself!

Cheers to Droppin' It Like It's HOT!

-Cheryl

Why Ask Why?

Do you ever read something and it sort of stays in your mind, tickling your thoughts to consider it on a deeper level? Sometimes, it's like a bad rash, requiring some attention before it will settle down and go away. Yet, sometimes, it's like the bud of a flower trying to burst open to spread it's fragrant beauty to each person that passes by. I am not sure yet where this nagging thought is taking me... so let's see...

I recently read from this book about how as little children we run around naked with no inhibitions and freely love others that we meet. Even the Bible talks about being like little children. Little kids have faith in the moment, and are not operating from any learned behaviors from society to fear others or to fear situations... They just Love.

The question raised, in this context, was about open marriages/relationships and if we truly embrace being and operating with the pure love and joy of the moment like a child does, then we should be free to love who we want how we want. If we truly understood the meaning of Love (as it was intended to be expressed), should not we be happy for our mate to be loving another person in what ever way brings them joy? Because their happiness should bring us joy. Why does the concept of my mate being intimate with another seem so difficult to accept? Are boundaries healthy or do they limit our ability to truly love others? There are at least 76 objections I could raise from my beliefs about what being in a committed relationship or marriage means to me to the hurts it could cause your mate to personal safety against sexually transmitted diseases. However, what it really comes down to is not so much whether I am for or against open marriages and/or relationships but WHY.


Why do I believe the way I do about this subject? What is MY truth? Am I against it because of what I have been taught from a more conservative upbringing? But if I have been taught this, is it really MY truth? What do I really think about this? Why do I only desire monogamy? Is this choice based out of fear? Or love? When I close my eyes, find the stillness within, what do I understand to be my truth.

If given the opportunity, would I run around naked in front of you? Would you run around naked in front of me?  If not, why? If you would, why?  

Why. It is such a good word! Do you ever really question your beliefs, actions and choices? Why do you believe the things you believe? Because someone told you to believe this or that? Because it is what society dictates? If yes, then why do you believe that? Are your actions and choices based out of fear? If they are, why? What's the worst that can happen if you raise questions and consider why your Truth is your Truth?  Freedom and Understanding about yourself!

One universal truth is that God (or God as you understand her to be) is for you, not against you. This is serious stuff. This is where faith comes from. This is the foundation of peace. You can trust in the goodness of the universe... So from this place of knowing the Creator of Life has your back, what do you believe? What do you believe about this and about everything else?


Close your eyes... Be still... Breathe deeply... Open your heart to yourself. Allow the questions to come. And wait for the answers to resonate in your soul. 


What is your Truth?

I hope these questions bring you a new level of enlightenment about yourself. Questioning and challenging myself in this way can certainly be entertaining, agitating and freeing. (However, yes, I still have my clothes on... for now.)

Regardless of which side of the coin your beliefs fall, it is good to remember that ones choices should always honor the love you have with your significant other. Because, really, it's all about the unashamed, unbridled passionate Love that little children share with others - however you choose to define and express it.

I realize this is kind of a controversial issue... So I would love to start a discussion. Your thoughts and comments are most welcome! There is no right or wrong answer, your Truth is yours to share freely here.


With My Love,
-Cheryl